How to Manipulate People to Want what You Want?
How can you improve the outcome of a situation? What does his/her body language mean? Why did he/she reacted that way? After doing some research on my own, I have come with 15 life hacks on how you can improve the outcome of an situation. How to represent yourself, especially when you are feeling nervous, or not in the mood to enter into a conversation with mostly unknown people? What people like and what they do not, and how to make them like you? These are the Psychology tricks to know every other person tricks and treats and not to fall for them. I wish you enjoy this article.
How to cope with situations
- When you first meet people, while you present yourself, and shake your hands, try to focus in the eye color of that person. Not really to find out the color, as much as, to look at the person just a little longer to make him/her think that you are interested.
- And when meeting people, they like a warm hand, they feel more comfortable immediately.
- You must have heard the rumor about: a persons pointing feet show where his/her interest lies. It must be true, because I have proven it myself. So, when you meet anyone, or you interrupt people in a coffee shop, or meeting, try to see where they feet point at. If they are pointing at you, they like you. But, if they are pointing away, and only their torso is pointing to you, then they are disturbed, and want to be left alone.
- If you want somebody to agree to do something for you, ask for something bigger than you really want. First ask for a more difficult, unable task for the other to complete. When he disagrees, then ask for the real, simpler task you need him/her to do. They will immediately agree, as they will feel like they put away a real burden. Funny, no?
- Einstein once said: “If you can not explain it to your grandma, then you have not understood it.” So, when you learn something new, try to teach it to your friend, your mother or father, or grandma. If they do understand, you have learnt it well.
How to make people like you
- And that quote: “People will forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel” is true by the way.
- If you want people to accept you, and like to be around you, act like you are happy and excited to meet them. They will approach in the same way with you too, maybe not in the moment but after a while.
- If people get angry at you, avoid calmness. Do whatever you want, but do not stay calm. Speak, raise your voice, react, argue, shut the door, everything is better than just staying calm. If you do so, that will make people angrier, and that will be understood as a sign that you do not really care.
- People have a certain image of him/herself, and would do everything and anything to keep that image. Be careful to detect it, and then find a way to frame yourself to their self-image.
- The key to confidence, is when walking into a room full of people, assume as everyone likes you.
How to represent yourself
- Want to feel happier, and better for yourself? Fake the biggest smile you can, and you will instantly feel happier. Fake it till you make it.
- The moment your morning disturbing alarm rings, sit up, pump your fists, and say “YEAH” without thinking twice, as though you have win something like a World Cup, an Oscar, a Nobel prize, or anything.
- When you are about to be interviewed, and you are stressed out, a little nervous, just say to yourself in repeat mode “I have known these people my whole life. These are my old friends, we are just catching up.” It will put you in the right mood for smooth nervous-less conversations and better presentation.
- When you want to move in a certain direction, but there is a crowd of people in front of you, remember to look over their shoulders, not into their eyes. When you look over their shoulder, or their heads, it shows them the direction you want to go, and they will move to let you go.
- Chew gum when you are in a situation that makes you nervous. When eating brain does not react to nervous situations, because it thinks “I am eating, I am not in danger.” Crazy, right?
We have often heard nice people quietly advising to be in control of ourselves, and mostly of our emotions. Not to manipulate them, or to feel something that is not there. But to not let negative words affect our emotions and turn them in negative emotions as well. Because they can dictate the way we react psychologically and physically more than we think they actually do. A negative word can bring us down, makes us feel bad, ashamed and guilty, and it can affect our wallet’s health as well! A less healthy wallet!
The research is conducted by Journal of Consumer Research. The participants were told to remember times when they felt guilty or ashamed. They were told to remember exactly the situation, the debate, the feelings, and their reactions. Then they were made to choose the options of a quiz. The result is: emotions can dictate our wallet’s health! How exactly? The guilty participants were those who got negative results from their specific actions. These participants tended to choose and buy cheap things which would not satisfy them. They knew they would not be pleased with those, but they bought them all the same, only for the sake of being cheap. The shame, on the other hand, is described as a negative emotion coming within yourself. Surprisingly, this emotion leads to spending more money on things you really like. So you are prone to buy expensive things, which you can not afford, just for the satisfaction they will bring you. Excuse? They will make you feel better, like you are on control of the whole world. Sweet little lie.
Either way you are spending your money on vain. That advise on controlling yourself and your emotions is quite healthy. Or at least you can try to think twice on why you are buying that thing. Do you really enjoy it? If so, can you afford it? Maybe you will need a little help on putting a smile on your face. You can start by thinking and deciding that you will not spend another day without laughing at least once. Even if you do not feel like laughing, you can always smile. Smile is easy. You see, you can try a little by lifting your lips edges. Your lips will form a curve that is called a Smile. In a couple of seconds you will be smiling for real, and you will feel better instantly. You can destroy your today by worrying for tomorrow. Take a moment to remind yourself that each day has enough of it’s sorrow, do not add more to it. No one ever knows, tomorrow is not granted. So curve those lips. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a great stroke of luck. 🙂
- People who feel depressed in winter and happier in summer may be suffering from “Seasonal Affective Disorder.“
- You will keep a room cleaner if it smells like a disinfectant. Try it.
- A study by Harvard University suggests that people who are distracted easier are more creative. The other time a teacher complains you are not concentrated take it as a compliment!
- Ignorant people are more likely to believe they are brilliant, while competent people are more likely to underestimate themselves.
- Women and younger people tend to have dreams in colors, rather than men and older people who tend to dream more in black and white.
- You remember that time you read how to understand if he/she likes you? One of the answers was: His/her pupils will dilate when he/she sees you. Well, you might want to be careful, because a study shows that someone’s pupils will dilate even when they see a person they hate.
- The inability to control negative thoughts is a sign of depression.
- It is impossible to remember how your dream started.
- Want to know how to make the difference between a real smile and a fake one? The genuine smile creates wrinkles in the corners of the eyes, while the fake one, only around the lips and mouth.
- Holding objects in front of your body like a book, or a pillow, or a bag, or anything else, indicates shyness or resistance.
- Monday mornings are so depressive that usually humans do not crack a smile till 11.24 am !! That is quite a lot. Say CHEESE for the camera! 😀
- Studying for 30-50 minutes at a time, with 10 minutes break in between, is the most effective way to retain information.
- We tend to believe that others pay much more attention to our behavior and appearance than they really do. This is called: the spot-light effect.
- When you talk to yourself you are actually making yourself “smarter”, contrary to popular belief that only dumb people talk to themselves. Maybe the crazy one are the smartest one!
- We assume others show love the same way we do, and we worry the love is not there when they do not show it like we do.
- 75% of people see things in their dreams, and later in life they see the same thing, and it freaks them out for a couple of seconds. I am surely one of this people, I see things and situation and hear conversations I KNOW I have seen, heard before, but just do not know where/when. Anyway, I do not freak out anymore, that is the good thing.
- The shiver you get when you experience something with great emotions is called “Frissonia“. I have this too. 😛
- Some people are terrified of being too happy because they believe that if they are too happy something terrible will happen later to them. This is known asCherophobia. Not so good.
- Your mind spends about 70% of time, replaying old memories and creating scenarios of perfect moments. Dear mind, you need to focus more!
- It takes up to 6 positive comments to make up for a negative one! Think before you speak.